Divorce is done and you are a
free man now. The process of divorce can
be long and exhaustive but in the
end it leaves such effects on the mind
of a person that it shakes the living day of that person. When I first went
through divorce, I was shattered to death. I just wanted to sit back at home
and mourn on the loss of the woman whom I loved and wanted to spend my life
with. But destiny had something else planned for me. After the divorce
and a few initial days of mourning, I finally moved on. It is a
difficult thing to do for any man
because we men are encoded in such a way that things like, “let go” and “move on” is something we take a lot of
time to implement. But once I
implemented them, life was never so beautiful.
After my divorce, the first
thing I wanted to do was to forget everything about the person who brought the
demon of divorce in my life. In order to forget it, like any other man, I also
planned to get into a relation with a
nice girl and give a fresh start to life, but then I realized that if I
get into a relation immediately after
divorce, then I will end up doing the same mistakes that I did in my last
relation. So I took time to settle down in life. I started to think about all
the things that lead my marriage to divorce and the things that surprised me
was that I had also was equally responsible for wrecking my life. Once I had known the reasons and the root
cause of the conflict, I started making those changes in my life. After a complete make over session of 3
months, I slowly and steadily though of dating and was curious to get into a
relationship. However, getting into
dating is not an easy job, especially, if you are doing it after so many years
of married life. If you are planning
to begin dating after divorce then I
would suggest you to give some time till
you settle down and spend quality some
time with yourself. One of my friend had also faced the bruises of divorce, and
the only thing he was worried about was staying alone after all this years of
married life. Men often make this
mistake of jumping from one relation to another after divorce. This will make things worse for you because
there are chances you might end up again with someone who might be exactly like
your ex-wife. There is no point getting into a relation that will initiate the
vicious cycle of marriage and divorce.
I have met many people who often
try to fix things with their spouse or go to such extent to hurt them by dating
someone whom you are certain will upset them. This is wrong, you have to let go
and start fresh. Digging old graves will not help in any way and it is only
going to hurt you. I mean whats the point doing this when you can think of some
way of leading a happy life. According
to a survey done by a men's magazine, many women voiced their opinion that they find it weird to find a man who is never
married as opposed to a guy who is divorced.
This survey was an eye opener for me and it gave me a fresh adrenaline to start dating again.
Bring some change in your life.
. Since you had been into a relationship for quite some time it would be
difficult for you in the initial phases to adapt to thee circumstances. We men
have this tendency to let ourselves go when we are in a serious relationship.
Now you are single and it is the best time to make chances in yourself. Get a
nice hair cut, join a gym and try to
engage yourself in something that you always wished to do. Doing this will raise your self confidence and will make you
more desirable. Go for some shopping, buy
some flattering new clothes that make you look good.
Single guys face problem talking
with women.
This can create an issue for
women when they go out to meet men. And
all they end up with is meeting guys who cannot even strike a conversation
properly. You can work this in your favor as I did. Been married before gave me an advantage as I
had the experience of living with a
women for 5 years and that made me super comfortable talking with
women. When I started dating again, it
worked as my biggest advantage.
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